Borderline disorder can be described as the general chaos that prevails in a person's mind and feelings. Borderline is referred to as a borderline personality because of the constant mood swings and emotional instability. People with a borderline personality type sometimes go through a real hell of a life.
Table of contents:
- Borderline personality - what is it?
- Borderline personality - mood swings
- Borderline personality - relationships and relationships with people
- Borderline personality - emotional instability
- Borderline personality - treatment
Borderline personality - what is it?
Personality is a certain dominant way of perceiving the world, processing reality, being in relationships. It is a construct that predicts how someone will behave in a given situation.
Borderline personality is a disorder that starts in early childhood, but is often not fully disclosed until adulthood (onset until mid-twenties). It is not fully understood what causes borderline disorder, but medical authorities say it is the result of chemical imbalances in the brain. These chemicals (neurotransmitters) help to balance mood, genetic balance and environmental influences. Borderline disorder is more likely to occur in families where the disorder is already present. It has also been observed that people with this disorder have often experienced severe trauma in early childhood.
The trauma can be physical, sexual or emotional abuse, as well as caused by rejection or stressful or distressing indifference from a parent. The borderline personality spells trouble. The dominant characteristics of people with borderline are instability and chaos.
Sufferers of borderline disorder show emotional instability, impulsivity, have a vague or disturbed self-image, anger control problems, strong feelings of rejection/rejection, self-harm. They also struggle emotionally with depression, eating disorders, and/or abuse psychoactive substances. Those affected by this disorder often cut themselves or set themselves on fire. Many, especially in the early years, are prone to suicidal thoughts and repeated suicide attempts.
Such erratic behaviour most often leads to unstable relationships. And this intensifies their feelings of emptiness, anger and despair caused by guilt. The patient, having no reason to do so, may have periods of suspicion towards others (paranoia). Other features include: sudden outbursts of anger and getting into fights.
Borderline personality - mood swings
"Terrible mood swings and feelings, anger anger, dissatisfaction, nailing, sadness, promiscuity or joy quickly give way to each other. Like a bolt from the blue a sudden change in mental state falls. The most trivial quarrel leads to a nervous breakdown, the smallest misunderstanding in interpersonal relations results in an immediate rupture of relations" - writes German professor, doctor of medicine and psychotherapist Bowin Bandelow.
The borderline personality is characterised by a great fear of rejection. This fear actually constitutes it. A person with borderline doesn't simply love, they idealise their chosen one. She would like to merge with him, merge into one, she would like this person to understand her in everything, at the same time she is afraid that this person will absorb her. The borderline personality is made up of paradoxes. Borderline individuals often get into relationships with people with a similar personality, either with psychopaths or adventurers.
Borderline personality - relationships and relationships with people
Women in particular tend to get involved in relationships with no future, which can start hell in their lives. People with borderline personality tend to stay in extremely intense relationships with other people. These are characterised by numerous conflicts, arguments and break-ups. After cutting, a feeling of inner peace often remains, but it does not last long. This behaviour serves as a kind of safety valve causing release from intense feelings and sensations such as rage, sadness, loneliness, shame or guilt.
Borderline personality - what are its characteristics?, photo: panthermedia
Difficult, impulsive behaviour, name-calling, shouting, brawling, not infrequently vicious behaviour and threats of suicide may occur in relationships. All of this serves only to keep the loved one, although to someone without the disorder such behaviour may seem illogical.
Women with borderline personality spread a magical aura around themselves that fascinates those around them. Coupled with borderline are often depressive disorders, bipolar affective disorder and suicide attempts. Eating disorders can also occur - anorexia, bulimia, sometimes even hospitalisation may be necessary.
Children who may develop borderline personality in the future are often children with a difficult character - absorbing the environment, showing impulsive behaviour. Family chaos and a home without rules also favour the development of borderline personality. Often, the development of borderline personality occurs when the child hears contradictory messages at home, his behaviour and successes are negated. Parents often discredit the child's behaviour when they cannot cope with it, and the child stops trusting his or her emotions and cannot identify feelings correctly. Often the child with borderline finds that he is unimportant and unloved, which can result in chaotic behaviour.
Borderline personality is associated with an unstable self-perception - in an instant, high self-esteem can turn into a sense of self-importance or a sense of being an angry, unpleasant, unsympathetic person. The impulsivity associated with borderline also manifests itself in sexual relationships. It implies frequent changes of partners, difficulties in maintaining a relationship, but also problems with sexual identity.
Borderline personality - emotional instability
A key element of borderline personality is emotional instability. The emotions of people with borderline could be described as balancing on a tightrope or living life on a knife edge. Feeling good in just a few minutes can turn into feeling severely depressed. The borderline personality is associated with feelings of intense anger or inner emptiness.
People with border line personality tend to engage in risky, impulsive behaviour such as drug use, heavy drinking, sex with casual partners, and binge eating. In stressful situations, people with borderline personality may experience delusions, persecutory thoughts, a sense of alienation, a lack of a sense of time, a feeling that the immediate environment is alien, loss of awareness of certain elements from the past, depersonalisation. People with borderline personality may also have problems concentrating, which affects their ability to study or work. Many people with borderline personality suffer from serious physical conditions such as severe and chronic pain, feelings of fatigue, arthritis, diabetes.
People with borderline personality often come into conflict with the law as a result of aggressive behaviour including attacking other people. Often borderline personality is also affected by kleptomania. People with this personality disorder tend to act under the influence of strong uncontrolled emotions.
Borderline personality - treatment
Treatment for borderline personality disorder involves a combination of medication and psychotherapy, and in some cases hospitalisation may be necessary. Often, patients with borderline personality, unable to bear the emotional pain, inflict physical pain on themselves, and this is also a way for them to "feel anything". The basis of living with borderline is an open attitude towards doctors and people extending a helping hand.
Support from loved ones and friends can be very important here, as well as developing one's passions and interests. The activities mentioned above are the best ways to overcome one's own inner demons and free oneself from the hell of borderline.
