The first step is to talk to the child. They should know that arguing or fighting does not solve problems, and that it takes more courage to give up a fight than to start one. It can also be stressed that the real victory is to control one's emotions and not to start a fight even if one is upset.

Children have a lot of energy and can react more intensely. Encourage them to identify what really triggered the anger. It is also important to find a way to defuse the emotion - it could be sport or music. It is important for parents to reassure the child that he or she has support and help from them to deal with problems.

The child should understand that most problems can be solved by talking, not fighting. Showing alternatives to fighting will be very helpful.