I think I argue too often. In a way, I'm a little bit okay with it, but what do those close to me think? It depends how you look at it. It's a well-known fact that with sharper exchanges we can count on hearing what the other person really thinks of us. But on the other hand, do we really need it?
On the other hand, this form of communication should by no means be completely abandoned. A good way of doing this may be to defuse the tension systematically. In such a solution, the most important thing is to talk about what we don't like, the moment it happens.
If we mention it after a while, we can argue at least about why we didn't say it earlier. And the circle closes. However, if we show our displeasure at every turn, we have cause for another argument. As you can see, it is not easy.
It is impossible to avoid an argument, even if we wanted it very much. Let us remember that a relationship is a meeting of two separate hearts, two different souls and characters. There is a lot of hard work ahead of us before we 'get there'. Sometimes, even after a long time, the situation does not change. So let me stress again: it is worth accepting what cannot be improved.
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This does not mean that we should be submissive and listen without a word to eternal resentment. We should set ourselves up for a partnership dialogue that assumes respect for the other person. We must remember that the partner also has the right to express his or her opinions, views or concerns. Every day, we have to decide how to react and how to communicate. To conclude, let me remind you of a passage from a song: And after the night comes the day, and after the storm comes peace.... Even if it is sometimes restless, let us look forward to what comes next. The effects may surprise us very positively, perhaps even delight us.
